Say good - bye to a toxic friend

My mother-in-law has been bugging me into buying All You magazine and she finally convinced me. As we went to our local Wal-mart to buy some ink for the printer (drained the ink from printing coupons!), I happen to see the magazine and bought one.
Then I read this in stress buster section . This made me ponder on my own friendships and find this worth sharing. Drama queen or not, in one time or another, we all go through this. So read, enjoy and learn!

Say good-bye to a toxic friend:

* Try the slow fade - Start the RSVP-ing "NO" and not returning her calls a promptly. When you do see her, ask fewer questions about her life. Eventually she will get the hint. Just be careful - there is a fine line between letting a relationship lapse and stringing along a friend. Even with the best intentions, misleading someone is cruel and even cowardly.


* Make a clean break - This approach works when you suffered a betrayal of trust. Say "I don't see us as part of each other's lives". If she reacts negatively, stand your ground by remaining calm and rational. You don't have to sever ties in person: calling or e-mailing is acceptable ( texting, which is rude and abrupt, is not ).


*Take stock - Think about past failed friendships and ask yourself : Did your friend change over time or did you? By dissecting relationships, you might begin to see why you're attracted to Mrs. Wrong. Maybe you're always drawn to drama queens. When meeting potential new friends, stay mindful of what qualities have lured you in the past.


I am easily lured into "friends" who I thought have the same personality as I am. But what happen is, we may have similarities in the surface but deep within we are different. Growing up in  different environments and  going through different experiences lead to different ideas and  different levels of maturity.  So what I have learned is to observe. Until proven worthy for a lasting friendship, put an invisible gap  or a  limit of how much you're willing to share to the person. I have been burned so I am very cautious now. Luckily my true friends are there to stand by me - not physically ( since they are in the Philippines) but by heart. IT feels good knowing there are people who truly know you, understand you  as a person  and have  stayed with you all these years. I've been friends with these girls for over a decade now and I am so very happy that we get to Skype and catch up. It feels good to have friends but having real friends is the greatest!
 Hope you had fun reading while picking up a valuable lesson as much as I did. Thank you!

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